Clergy well-being or how to thrive

At the heart of my ministry is the call to an ever deepening relationship with God and his love. I have sought over the years to become what Ian Cowley calls a Contemplative Minister (The Contemplative Minister 2015 BRF), nurturing my faith in what is a hectic world I endeavour to minister from a still centre. I know that many ordained ministers seek to do  the same.

As we seek to minister from that still centre the world often takes over; people have unrealistic expectations of us, we struggle to maintain boundaries, we can lack collegial support, we face pastoral challenges and added to that many of us think we a super human.

So are we surprised that St Luke’s healthcare for clergy found in a recent survey that around 12% of the clergy who responded said they were struggling or barely coping. Two-thirds of those said they frequently considered giving up their role in the Church because of stress.

Guidelines for the Professional Conduct of Clergy 2015 states that Bishops and those exercising pastoral care of the clergy should both by word and example actively encourage the clergy to adopt a healthy life style and maintain a commitment to the care and development of themselves and their personal relationships.

If clergy are to care for the flock of Christ we need to ensure that we care for ourselves and each other. So I was delighted that one of my first official activities in the London Diocese was to host a clergy INSET Day on well-being.



Promoting well-being requires us as individuals to take responsibly for ourselves, developing strategies and patterns of ministry which help us to maintain a balanced life of service, rest, prayer and recreation. The church needs to promote and support clergy resilience, helping them to reflect on their practice in safe places and we need to signpost people to access advice and counselling if necessary.

As I listened to The Revd Dr Gillian Straine I was challenged by her suggestion that rather than well-being we should talk about flourishing – finding God’s purpose for our lives, an embodied existence, where mind, body and spirit are united and where we can express our vocation to the increase of God’s kingdom. This allows us to be in that place where we thrive but may not fulfil the narrow definition of being well.

To thrive still requires us to take responsibilities and encourage each other but it does open up a wider understanding of well-being.  A thought for the General Synod group looking at ‘A Covenant for Clergy Well-being?

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Live Like its Heaven on Earth

Sermon Preached at my farewell Service today at Exeter Cathedral
 Isaiah 43:1-3a and Hebrews 6:13-20

They told me it never snowed in Devon! It is hard to believe that just over a month ago we were snowed under and I would like thank the Dean and the cathedral for having re arranged today.


It is been a privilege to have been in Devon and I know that it has not been long enough – just as it was said that it never snowed in Devon they also said they were not going to appoint a women to be Bishop of London. We have a God of surprises and a God who is doing a new thing.

I am grateful for the privilege of sharing ministry here and particularly with Bishop Robert and Bishop Nick – thank you. I take with me memories of playing football in Bethlehem, of a dancing bishop in Jerusalem, baking in the Cathedral, praying on trains to Exmouth and the red mud of the Mid Devon Show. But most importantly I take the people of Devon with me because I am different because of my time with you.

Although there are many differences about Devon and London there are many similarities. People and their concerns are the same world over.

It would be easy a few months into 2018 to sound a bleak note. The weather has been challenging; there is political tensions across the world, chemical warfare has come knocking at our door, plastic is gunking up the seas, marine life and possibility our own bodies; Brexit negotiations seem to be struggling, the NHS is crumbling for lack of money and many headlines speak of the demise of the church.  It can be easy to create communities of negative thought.

At the beginning of this year the Washington Monthly published an article by Roger McNamee. Roger McNamee has had a long and existing relationship with Facebook. He says that the best advice he ever gave was to Mark Zuckerberg not to sell face book in its early days.

In the article Roger reflects on the way in which Facebook and other social media are developing algorithms to encourage you to make contact with those who hold your values and views. These algorithms encourage the link more between negative values than positive – fear and anger produce much more engagement than joy. Last month we saw Analytica in Cambridge hitting the headlines as they used these algorithms in the run up to elections.

It has been suggested that the echo chambers of social media tap into those deep yearnings which lie within us and are at the heart of our insecurities as to who we are – the whispers within our heads, which is why we may be seeing a growth in social, economic and cultural insecurity and the fear of the other.

In the midst of all of this we risk missing the good news and there is good news. Today we celebrate Her Majesty the Queen and her wonderful public service and we mark the Commonwealth with its wonderful diversity – signs of hope.

Since I have been in Devon I have seen much which has given me encouragement; The way in which the farming community protect and enhance our environment, the stories of excellent care which come out of the NHS and we have a Church which is showing signs of life.

We should be encouraged and people of hope.

Across Devon the Church remains at the heart of many of our communities – churches at Christmas and Easter were full of people from their villages, churches are providing activities which are reducing loneliness, and churches are supporting food banks and credit unions. 28,000 children attend one of our church schools and I have seen children praying and leading worship with confidence and with faith. Small rural churches are not failed big churches when their participation rates are much larger than many urban convocations. Our urban churches are often the places where we see cross generational participation and who reach out to those on the margins. Chaplains across the diocese are engaging with people who have no faith but are still spiritual.

And whilst the Christian faith may no longer be peoples default identify people continue to choose to follow Christ and it has been a joy to confirm so many people while I have been in Devon – individuals of all ages affirming their baptismal vows – declaring that they are following Jesus Christ.

We should be people who speak of the hope we see. I have seen hope in the stories of those I have confirmed, in the stories of those I have met who have used food banks and in the stories of those who have been befriended by their local church. All demonstrate the hope of Christ breaking though. They are signs of what more we can and should hope for.

There is a risk that as we see people no longer seeing Christianity as an inherited faith and with the pressure on our churches grow we act out of fear.

I observe that people want the church to grow but fear change. We want to see children in church but fear what that might mean for us.

In the bible people are often told do not be afraid. Sarah caught eves dropping on the visitors, the shepherds at the nativity, the disciples at the transfiguration and the disciples when Jesus walks on the water all told not to be afraid.

We are told that we should not be afraid. When we pass through the waters he will be with us and when we pass through the rivers they will not sweep over us.

Do you recall that wonderful occasion when the fishermen were in the boat and Jesus walking on the water passed them by and they we afraid – what did Jesus says? ‘Take heart it is I: do not be afraid’

Peter with his wonderful have a go character stepped out of the boat – then losing sight who Jesus was for him began sinking – and what did he find – Jesus’ hand there for him. We are so similar having stepped out of the boat in faith we too lose sight of who God is for us and the waters threaten to overcome us but we need to remember that God has summoned us by name and we are his. Just like Peter we will find his hand there for us.

To act out of fear risks us not giving enough time to being open to God and his kingdom and the spirits presence.   To act out of fear means we focus on the tasks and not on God. We need to know that God has called us by name, wait on God, deepen and grow in prayer as we listen to God as we understand what the spirit is calling us to do.

Then focusing who God is for us and his commission for us we should have courage and share the hope we have found and in doing so we will find confidence to make new disciples and demonstrate Gods love as we serve the people of Devon with Joy.

The growth of the kingdom of God is in God’s hands we must not act out of anxiety and panic but out of trust whole hearted reliance on God. Confidence in ourselves must be bounded by our confidence in God.

Now I am someone who is very self- conscious, measured and risk adverse but there is something about growing the kingdom of God which requires us to be fearless and reckless in what we do.

Do you remember the farmer who sewed generously and recklessly where seed fell on the path, the rock within the weeds and on the good soil (he wouldn’t cut the mustard with Devon Farmers) but that is the nature of the Kingdom of God and we will watch while we see the seed snatched away, burnt up in the sun chocked by weeds but we will also see it grow first the blade, then the ear then the full grain in the ear.

So be of good courage the God who has called us is faithful.

To the clergy of the diocese I would like to leave four lines of a poem I was reminded of recently which over the door of the Eden Project:

“Dance like no one is watching,
Love like you’ll never be hurt,
Sing like no one is listening,
Live like it’s heaven on earth.”
And may the God of all hope give you joy and peace in believing. Amen

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Hope and Building Community

My Easter Message which appeared in The Sun Newspaper today

Just weeks ago, I fought my way through what seemed like an arctic blizzard as I walked towards St Mary, Stoke Newington to visit Hackney Night Shelter, which supports the homeless there. As I got past the corner of Clissold Park, I saw a daffodil with its head still sticking out of the snow. It reminded me that, however much if felt like winter, spring would come – that gave me a feeling of hope.

This time last year, London was in the midst of a frightening period, in the wake of the Westminster terrorist attack, which was all too closely followed by further attacks at London Bridge, Finsbury Park, and Parsons Green. London felt as if it was under siege from terror – as soon, sadly, would Manchester. The rest of the country shared in the pain.

I cannot imagine what it was like for those who lost loved ones, and those whose lives have been forever changed as a result. My heart goes out to them and I know that, in this last year, they’ve travelled a difficult journey in unknown territory.

Yet, in the midst of all this sorrow, we have seen acts of generosity which reflect the very best of humanity. The efforts of countless healthcare workers, first responders who ran towards danger, the police, neighbours, members of the public, faith leaders and many more who came together to demonstrate the resilience of our communities in the face of terrorists – they all brought with them hope.

Those who seek to bring terror also seek to break down community. But rather than give in, we have seen people stand in solidarity for the victims, their families and the survivors of those tragic acts – they give us hope.

Building community does not stop with responses to tragedy. In fact, it should be at the heart of exactly how we want to be as a society. In the face of not just terror, but also the political and economic uncertainly we find ourselves in, strong community holds individuals and families together in the face of difficult times. To build community requires us to understand that we have more in common than divides us, and this comes from sharing our stories. We share stories not to tell our own but rather to listen to someone else’s tale; someone who often we may see as different.

In the snowy days we have had in recent weeks, I found myself without suitable shoes so I borrowed a friend’s wellies. Unfortunately they weren’t a very good fit and I didn’t find getting around particularly easy. That feeling of uncertainty can be similar to the one when you’re trying to understand someone who might be quite different to you. There again, it may not feel easy, but ultimately putting yourself in their shoes – not literally in that case – helps us to understand them. Building community is about understanding we have more in common than divides us – that can bring us hope.

This week, Christians across the world are retelling the narrative of Jesus’s death. We are walking the way of the cross, before the glory of Easter Day as we celebrate his resurrection. Remembering and retelling narratives are at the heart of any culture. Remembering occurs as parents tell and retell to their children and grandchildren what is most prized in their community. We walk the way of the cross in Holy Week to remember who God is for us, his generosity and grace. We recall what God did in the death and resurrection of Christ in the past, which points to a future without pain and death but holds us here and now – that is hope.

Ahead of the anniversaries of the London terror attacks, Mayor Sadiq Khan announced that the hashtag #LondonUnited would be projected on to the Houses of Parliament, London Bridge, Finsbury Park Mosque, and Parsons Green Tube Station. For me, this is about highlighting resilience and hope, shining a beacon on victims and heroes, and demonstrating how we came together amidst times of real adversity. A permanent tribute now to those who were affected, to London, and to the country, would be to continue to build lasting communities which demonstrate our commonality and build resilience. There is hope.

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God is Faithful

Since my appointment was announced back in December I have felt slightly like the pushmi-pullyu from Dr Doolittle; Facing the Diocese of Exeter as I prepare to leave well and toward the Diocese of London as I take opportunities to meet with people across London. Whilst my confirmation of election means I will formally, legally become Bishop of London, I still have duties to carry out in Devon over the coming weeks until my installation at St Pauls’ Cathedral in May.

I have been very grateful for people’s prayers and good wishes over the last few months and one constant theme from those who have been in contact with me is that ‘God is Faithful’

On the inside of my episcopal ring is engraved Isaiah 43: 1-3   They are the verses which appear around the William Pye font at Salisbury Cathedral where I was Canon Treasurer

But now thus says the Lord, he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine.  When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you.  For I am the Lord your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Saviour.’

These verses remind me that God has called me by name and that he is faithful.

As I have begun to meet people in London the privilege of ministry that lies ahead of me has become clearer and the quality of the Bishop’s Staff and the College of Bishops more apparent. Already, my colleagues have been a great help and support to me. London is full of wonderful people and I look forward to working with them and serving them.

I’m conscious that serving this vibrant Diocese will be a hugely challenging task, and there will be so much for me to learn in these coming weeks and months. There will be much to be done, both within and beyond London.

My position on the National Safeguarding Steering Group will continue, while the Archbishop of Canterbury is also placing increasing emphasis on the Bishop of London’s role as Dean of the Southern Province – a sensible move to reflect the modern-day requirements of the Church of England. Plus, like my predecessors, I will sit in the House of Lords. Given all that, I’m thankful that Richard Chartres has agreed to remain as Dean of the Chapels Royal for the time being, to give me time to become accustomed to these various duties and responsibilities.

It has not passed me by that my Confirmation of Election is on 8th March 2018 which is also International Women’s Day. As the first Bishop of London who is a woman I am reminded that as women we have many opportunities today because of the women of the past but there continues to be unequal treatment for women across the world – more progress is needed. #PressforProgress. I know that there are some that feel that my aspiration for women to fulfil their potential is in conflict with a Church for whom some cannot accept women as priests or bishops.   Let’s be clear that this is a theological position which relates to either the sacramental ministry of priests or the issue of headship leadership. Women within these two segments of the church need to be able to flourish and within the rest of the church women need to be equally represented in leadership roles so that the church reflects the nature of God. With only 15% of priests being women in the Diocese of London we need to ensure that they and those from BAME groups are enabled to find their vocation.

The Confirmation of Election reminds us that bishops are called to lead in the serving and caring for the people of God and to work with them in the oversight of the Church – that bishops are to know their people and be known by them. I look forward to knowing and being known by the people of London.

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Accelerating Change – Safe and Open Churches

It is my fervent prayer that the church is a place where all people are welcomed into open and secure communities that make known Christ’s reconciling peace and love. Over the years it has been with sadness and horror that I have heard stories from survivors and victims of clerical abuse. Their stories have included not just the appalling acts of abuse but the way the church has added to their injury by not responding well when they disclosed them

Since I received the Elliott report two years ago I have seen change. I know it may not have been fast enough for survivors, but we should welcome the change which has taken place.

Most significant has been the beginnings of a cultural change which is reflected in the importance safeguarding is being given within the Church by those in senior leadership: improved and increased training, better policies and independent monitoring by the Social Care Institute for Excellence.

It is of course easier to change structures than change culture yet without culture change true, lasting change does not occur. I know of a church whose new vicar wanted to change the format of the chairs from rows into a circle to develop a more loving community. So he did. But every time he went on leave, the congregation moved the chairs back because they couldn’t bear looking at each other. Perhaps if he had enabled them to grow their love of one another first the chairs would l have stayed – but that change would have taken much more effort, much more time.

So starting with culture change is good. But our challenge remains how do we accelerate how we involve survivors in improving the church’s culture? How do we find that balance of being open to those who disclose without rushing to conclusions?

We will over the coming weeks hear more about how the church has and has not dealt well with survivors and victims of abuse – we will find incredibly difficult and painful to hear these stories, but they have to be heard and they have to motivate us to change more, and more quickly so not to undermine all those who have to date paid the personal price for us not yet getting it right.

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What I’d tell my 14-year-old-self

Published in the Church Times 9th February 2018

Have confidence in who you are, the skills and gifts that you have and know that your dyslexia will not be what defines you.  Have courage to walk away from the expectations others have of you, for that is when you will discover who you really are. The decision you are making to follow Jesus will be the best decision you have ever made and  soon  there will be a time when you cannot imagine life without the knowledge of God’s love.  In the decades ahead of you, God will become your refuge, strength and inspiration. Hold onto your courage and your anger against injustice – and celebrate the joy that caring for others is beginning to give you.

Although you worry about those you love dying, believe that they will stay with you – in your memories, in who you are, in the faces and nature of your children. Take some more photos of the children and husband you are going to go on to have – though it may be hard for you to imagine now the joy they will give you, your children will grow up far too quickly.

And lastly, don’t give up playing the French Horn and don’t give away your sister’s signed Paul Weller vinyl – you’ll get decades of grief from it!


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Votes for Women #Suffragette100

My grandmother, Emily Louise, was a confident women – she had to be. Like many she lost her first love in the First World War and though she celebrated in 1918 when the first women received the vote she like many  had to wait another 6 years before she was 30 and could vote herself. She had her first child at the age of 33 and looked after two boys while my grandfather fought in the Second World War. She continued throughout to work as a comptometer operator (the first commercially successful key driven mechanical calculator). I recall her always assuming that as girls my sisters and I could do whatever we wanted to do and I also remember my grandfather offering the same encouragement. Looking back I have been so grateful for their encouragement, which along with the support of my parents, gave me confidence as a child to believe that anything was possible.

Today we mark the day that Millicent Fawcett, the Pankhursts and other suffrage campaigners won a hard fought victory – the passing of the Representation of Peoples Act 1918 which gave the first votes for some women and paved the way for universal suffrage 10 years later. Today speaks of the efforts of so many which have shaped my opportunities and the life I am able to live today and I am profoundly grateful.

My daughter, whose middle names are Emily Louise, is a confident women of whom I am very proud. I am also aware that research tells us that even with our second female Prime Minster when we think of a powerful person we are likely to think of a man. Mary Beard in her book Women & Power writes that her ‘basic premise is that our mental, cultural template for a powerful person remains resolutely male’. Changing that cultural template will be as hard a fight as that fought a hundred years ago but if we are to shape a more equal future for our children then this culture must be challenged at every possible opportunity.

Mary Beard goes on to make the point that a headline in The Times in early 2017 ‘Women Prepare for a Power Grab in Church, Police and BBC’ suggest that we are taking something to which we are not quite entitled, the article reported the possibility that women might soon gain the positions of Metropolitan Police commissioner, chair of the BBC Unitary Board and the Bishop of London. Two out of three ain’t bad, I suppose. But in the year that I am to be installed as Bishop of London, the year we celebrate the centenary of the vote for some women, then I believe more is possible and not just possible, but necessary. #equallyvalued

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